by Sally Matheny When my children were preschoolers, they “beat” me in every game. I made sure they buzzed in answers before me, scored the most points, and reached the finish line first. The same took place in other areas. Batches of backward letters were praised, rather, than reshaped. Misspoken words adored instead of corrected. Scored baskets enticed wild cheers at their first basketball games. We did not dare mention the refs overlooking some serious walking infractions. Why We Enabled Our Children to “Win” Why? Because we did not want our children to be upset if they failed to win. Because we, like many others, wanted our children to feel…